Friday, 29 May 2009

Do not rush to grow up...

Do not rush to grow up - you only walk by each stage of life once. Cherish each stage in time and enjoy it for what it is. You'd never walk by the same way again, so take a deep breath and appreciate where you are in life.

Take a critical look at yourself now. Many of us wish that we can move forward in time - be it towards the time when our children grow up and do not need our incessant attention, or towards the time where we can comfortably retire and do what we always wanted to do. Some wish that we can move backwards in time when life was much more simple and we did not have so much responsibilities on our shoulders, or we hope to go back to times when we were much fitter and younger (late nights were easy, and we can eat without fear of piling on weight).

"Do or do not... there is no try

Not many of us can appreciate the time in which we live. As the Jedi master Yoda says, "All his life has he looked away... to the future, to the horizon. Never his mind on where he was. What he was doing." We always postpone happiness to the future, and recall regrets of the past. What we should do is to seize the day and make the best of today!

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote an entry about the Sunscreen Song by Baz Luhrmann. One of the lines in the lyrics go, "Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked…."

That's right... we all looked back at photos of the past and see how alive we were in our youth, before all these responsibilities were heaped upon us. Sure we looked dorky in the old photos, but hey... the glow of youth made everything seem possible! Those were carefree times, and we wanted to conquer the world. Who cares if we didn't look our best in those photos? Youth does not need any make-up or branded material to look good... youth itself is priceless.

So what happened to us in-between then and now? Work... stress... responsibilities... the demands of adulthood and working life took its toll on us. Our aspirations and energy were sapped away by the relentless demands of work and life, and time passed us by in an instant. We stopped appreciating life and the things around us, content to be able to grasp a moment of respite from work and life. Our personal time became a precious commodity, and we hated people and situations that wrestled the precious few hours from us. Anything that required our additional attention, such as cars or refrigerators breaking down, or family members falling sick ... such issues become irritating because they interfered with our personal time. We want time to pass by quickly to a stage in life where we are no longer irritated by the lack of time to handle such matters, or where such matters ceased to be an issue.

Herein lies the problem - it is escapism at best, and escapism is never a good thing. By always looking forward to the future, we miss the moments that defines our stages in life (yes... the stages that we only walked by once). I know of people who can't wait to get past a stage in life, only to find that the next stage carries its own set of problems. Perhaps that is that why girls always want to remain 21. At 14, they can't wait to grow up to have the freedom to go out without curfew and buy whatever they want. At 36 they wished they were back at carefree 21 again with that terrific figure and flawless complexion.

We face different opportunities and problems at various stages in life, and it is up to us to see the bright side of life at each point in our life's trajectory. If you are married and you can't wait till your kids grow up and stop bugging you incessantly with their questions, you'd regret sixteen years down the road when you wish they'd even speak to you about their lives and friends. If you are single, enjoy your personal time. If you are attached or married, enjoy your partner's company. Enjoy where you are now, and behave like your age. Don't be in a rush to grow up.

Here're pictures of my car - a MINI Cooper S Cabrio Sidewalk edition. I love it - and I love many other cars as well. I love the new Mercedes Benz C-Class, but I picked the MINI over the C200. Why? Because I know I only live life once, and at this stage in life when I'm single and I've no family commitment, I can buy the MINI without guilt and enjoy the wind in my hair (while I still have a crowning glory). The Mercedes can wait - it's a typical saloon car that you can fit a child seat so you can buy it when you have a family. The MINI on the other hand... is a gorgeous car that fits nicely into only a short time in your life. (No... MINI does not pay me for this triade)

While you are fit and nimble, go forth and seek adventure. Travel to places you always wanted to see. You will never remain so dexterous - the next time you spot an any elderly persons with walking difficulty, remember that they were once as frisky as you are. And that you will one day have as much mobility issues as they have now. Until that day comes, run like the wind and never look back or look forward.

So live your life without regrets - one stage at a time...

If you've not watched the movie "Click" by Adam Sandler... go watch it. I can't explain the concept more vividly than the movie.

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